It’s Okay to Talk About Other Things…

Really, it is. I’d prefer that. Because let’s be honest, if I had good news or had made significant progress with my job search I would tell you without you asking. Please don’t feel as if you should ask how the job hunt is going every time we talk. I know you care because you’re my friend and that’s enough.

I’m not saying you shouldn’t check in, I’m just saying it’s okay if we don’t talk about it during every single conversation we have.  Unless you have a word (from God) for me or have connections in my field or a network I could tap into (read that: you can guarantee me an interview with a global health organization jk), then please tell me. I would love to hear it. You can ask me about other things – what I think about a certain news item, if I’ve done something new lately (read that, not job related), what’s the latest book I read. Better yet, tell me about your life, tell me what’s new, tell me about your victories. I want to hear about all the amazing things that you’re doing, that are happening to you – I want to celebrate your wins with you because when you win, we all win. Tell me about your lows, your struggles, the little things that irritate you, your frustrations – don’t ever feel like you can’t share your hard stuff with me because I have my own stuff to deal with. That’s what I’m there for and that’s why I’m your friend to share in the good and the bad.  One of the things I loved about celebrating my birthday last weekend was the fact that I almost didn’t have to have any conversations about my situation, I could just enjoy the day surrounded by friends and family talking about other things, living in the moment, worries and plans put off for another day. I felt refreshed, loved, like I had no cares in the world. It was great! So, in that same vein I’m going to talk about something different. I’m making a of list 30 things I hope to do in my 30th year of life (suggestions are welcome!) Here’s what I have so far:

  • 30 random acts of kindness
  • Send snail mail each month for the next year (12 letters/post cards before by my next birthday)
  • Attend a play/musical
  • Watch a classic movie marathon
  • Get a driver’s license
  • Set and accomplish a reading goal
  • Travel to a different country (preferably on a continent I haven’t visited yet)
  • Learn how to make my favourite cocktail (still deciding what that is)
  • Unplug and go offline for a weekend
  • Learn calligraphy and hand-lettering
  • Take a class (cooking, sports, programming, pottery, flower arrangements – the options are endless)
  • Get my finances in order and learn how to start and keep a budget
  • Become a mentor
  • Start a workout routine
  • Improve my wine knowledge
  • Do one thing that scares me
  • Volunteer for a cause I believe in
  • Go to a sports game
  • Treat myself to a spa day

2 thoughts on “It’s Okay to Talk About Other Things…

  1. Yay I love this list. For a workout routine check out Team Beachbody’s Focus T25. I started a reading goal a few weeks ago…20 minutes before bed. So far I’ve read Anita Desai’s Fasting, Feasting. Now I am reading Arundhati Roy’s The God of Small Things. Classic movies: Do the Right Thing, Love Jones, Love and Basketball 🙂 Will you share your progress as you go along?


    • Ooo yes. Thank you for the suggestions. I will definitely be checking them out and adding them to my growing list. And yes, I’ll share my progress (I need to be kept accountable). I just need to figure out when. 🙂


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